正要开始吃饭，小小宝贝呱呱叫。她说，“ 哎哟，才要开始吃饭，小小宝贝就呱呱叫了。我去照顾他。”
吃饭的当儿，小小宝贝呱呱叫。她第一个放下汤匙，飞奔去房间，一边说，“ 爸爸妈妈，你们先吃吧！让我照顾小小宝贝。”
有时候，正要开始吃饭，小小宝贝都没有呱呱叫， 她就先说了，“ 你们先吃吧！我照顾小小宝贝。他等下一定会哭的。”
“ 妈妈，你要冲凉是吗？我帮你照顾小小宝贝。你去吧，不然等下他哭了你就不能冲凉了。”
“ 妈妈，我喂小小宝贝喝奶，你去躺吧！不然，你会很累的。”
我不懂这是身教，还是模仿，或者是讨好我们的举止 （这样说好像对她很不公平）。
我也没有欣慰或者是得意我们的小宝贝那么懂事，体贴。 一开始还真的有点感动。可是，心里却觉得不是很对劲。
小宝贝只是个三岁多的小孩，她是不是应该梦幻一些，玩多一些？而不是帮我们分担照顾小小宝贝这个责任？
我们是不是不自觉地传达了要她帮忙的讯息？还是我们忽略了她，而导致她需要讨好我们，引我们注意？
以下是我和老公讨论的对话。
[4:00:12 PM] clancelee: her development slows down ever since Jing is here, though i don’t really think it is a bad thing or a good thing.. or she is learning other things up, like buildign her relationship with her bro
also, i sometimes think that waldorf prefer development to be slow and steady in the first 7 years.. Ning was flying in the first 3 years.. Maybe Jing is helping Ning to slow down a bit to take note of more little things around her
[4:19:06 PM] clancelee: i feel that we are harsh to her compare to how we treat her last time but we are still very nice to her.. but it could be wrong, hard to do any judgement now
[4:19:19 PM] clancelee: even before Jing is around, we are already start to clash with her more often
[4:19:28 PM] pooi .: y?
[4:19:38 PM] clancelee: expectation? i don’t know
我希望我们一家人可以找到平衡点。。。。。
